If this were a list of the human race's greatest
fears, public speaking would be right at the top. Whether it's
forgetting your lines or realizing you have a tail of toilet paper
hanging out of your pants, fear of public speaking really boils down to
fear of being ridiculed, rejected, and publicly humiliated. But don't
worry -- with the following tips, you'll be fine!
So relax and check out the first tip to get
started.
1. Watch the Masters
If you've got a speech or presentation in your
future, start looking for what makes successful public speakers so
successful. Note their styles and habits and keep them in mind as good
examples.
2. Fix Up, Look Sharp
If you're in a position where public speaking is
required, let's hope you've already got a handle on the importance of
personal grooming. If not, take heed: The better you look, the more
ready and professional you'll feel. A lot of people are going to be
looking at you -- make sure you look your best.
3. Hello, Room. Nice to Meet You.
If at all possible, check the specs of the room
where you'll be speaking. Is it football stadium big or conference room
big? What about the sound system? If you'll be using a microphone, it's
a good idea to test it out beforehand. The more familiar you are with
your environment, the more comfortable you'll be at the podium.
4. Sober Up
If your speaking engagement is at a social
function (e.g., wedding, reunion), it might seem like a good idea to
guzzle as much liquid courage as you can before your speech. But
listening to a sincere speech from someone who's nervous is much better
than listening to incoherent babble from someone who's loaded.
5. Know Your Material
Winging it is not a good idea when you've got a
speech to make. While going with the flow and being flexible is smart,
trusting yourself to be brilliant without any preparation is something
even the pros don't attempt. Do your research. Know your topic and what
you're going to say about it and how you'd like to say it. The more you
know, the more confident you'll be up there.
6. Practice, Practice, Practice
Once you're prepared, go through the speech.
Then read it again. Then again. And then once more. Practice in front of
a mirror. Practice to your dog. Grab a friend or family member and
practice in front of a real human being. Every time you go through your
presentation, you're adding another layer of "I know this stuff."
7. Visualize Yourself Being Fabulous
Negative thinking will get you nowhere but down
in the dumps. If you believe that you'll be great, you will be. If you
think you're going to fail, you probably will. It's as simple as that.
8. Know Your Audience
To whom are you speaking? If they're colleagues,
they probably want to learn something from you. If they're friends,
they're likely looking to be entertained. If it's a judge, well, he or
she wants to be convinced. Know who your audience is and tailor your
speech and delivery to them. Give them what they want!
9. Relax!
We're usually our own worst critics. If you
forget to read a sentence off your notes, it's doubtful anyone will
know. If you skip forward to the next image on the projector by mistake,
no one's going to run you out of town. Don't worry. It's not life or
death, it's just a speech.
10. Don't Give It Away
If it really, truly makes you feel better to
announce to the room that you're so nervous before you begin, go ahead.
But your speech will have a lot more weight if you don't. Chances are
good that you're the only one who knows you're shaking in your boots --
why show the cracks in your armor? Let them believe you have it under
control, even if you don't feel like you do.
11. Slow Your Roll
One of the biggest indicators of nervousness is
the lightning-fast talker. You might have the best speech ever written,
but if no one can understand what you're saying, it doesn't matter. Pace
yourself and remember to speak at a normal (or even slightly slower)
pace when you're speaking publicly.
12. The Eyes Have It
People trust people who look them in the eye, so
look at your audience when you're speaking to them. Don't look at the
floor -- there's nothing down there. Don't look solely at your notes --
the audience will think you haven't prepared. You appear more confident
when your head is up, which puts your audience at ease and allows you to
take command of the room.
13. Go On, Be Funny!
Who doesn't like to laugh a little? You don't
have to be a comedian, but a few lighthearted comments can help humanize
you to your audience. Win them over with a smile and a well-timed clever
remark, if you can. But be advised, too many jokes can weaken the
validity of a presentation.
14. Your Errors Are Okay
So you tripped on the microphone cord. So what?
So you said macro when you meant micro somewhere in your speech. So you
accidentally said the name of your sister's ex-boyfriend during your
toast instead of the name of her new husband -- so what! Everyone makes
mistakes. Acknowledge them and move on.
15. Keep It Short, Please
Even the president's State of the Union Address
is only around an hour. Know what's expected of you and deliver that --
and no more. We've all been tortured by a speaker who goes on and on,
caring little for the audience's interest or comfort level. Don't be one
of those speakers -- always leave them wanting more.
16. It's SO Not About You
The more you can take the focus off yourself,
the better. After all, it's not likely you're being asked to give a
presentation of your life story. So concentrate on the message and find
freedom in just being the messenger.
17. Fake It 'Til You Make It
The old saying "fake it 'til you make it" is
actually pretty good advice. Even if you have zero confidence in
yourself, try acting like you do. The longer you fake it, the more
comfortable it will feel, until, voilą, you're a bona fide confidence
machine.
18. Be Yourself
We're all human. We're all a little afraid of
the podium, the microphone, or the boardroom. Despite what you may
believe, people don't want you to fail. They ultimately want to see you
succeed. Give them what they want by just being the best you you can be.